4 tips to communicate better & feel more connected to your partner.

1. It's okay to keep things private in your life. Even from your partner. "An important component of attunement is for partners to be able to express negative emotions when there is something upsetting or concerning happening in the relationship, and to have their voice heard" -Dr. John Gottman.

2. We all got complaints. BUT there is a deeper longing behind every complaint. Instead of "You don't even care about me because you always hang out with your friends" try "I have felt more lonely lately when you are out with your friends. I would like us to have more dedicated quality time so that I feel more connected to you."

3. Many of us struggle with defensiveness and that's okay. Most of the time, our partner is not out to get us and intentionally hurt us. That's why it's important to know your triggers for getting defensive and nip them in the bud. Also, it couldn't hurt to give your partner the benefit of the doubt ;)

4. Having a relationship ritual can breed positivity. Create coming and going rituals that take place when you reunite or have to be apart. For example, a 6 second kiss or hug before leaving for work. Or the partner leaving for work can leave a love note to the one who is left at the house.

If you’re struggling to use any of these ways to communicate it may be time to try couples therapy.

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