Exploring the Benefits of Swinging for Your Relationship: A Guide to Getting Started
In the realm of modern relationships, couples are increasingly seeking alternative ways to strengthen their bond and reignite the spark.
One such avenue that has gained popularity in recent years is swinging. This consensual, non-monogamous lifestyle choice is not for everyone, but for those who approach it with open communication and a solid foundation, it can lead to a deeper level of intimacy and trust. In this post, I’ll delve into why swinging might be good for your relationship and provide practical steps on how to get started together.
The Benefits of Swinging
Enhanced Communication:
Swinging necessitates open and honest conversations about desires, boundaries, and expectations. This level of communication is invaluable in any relationship, as it encourages vulnerability and fosters a deeper understanding of each other's needs. Imagine being able to talk about ANYTHING with you sweetheart. Now doesn’t that sound nice?
Rekindling Intimacy:
Exploring new experiences together can reignite the passion in a relationship. The thrill of sharing such intimate moments can create a unique bond that translates into a revitalized connection in your primary partnership.
More often than not with the clients I work with, it can be a great turn on for a partner witnessing their partner experiencing pleasure or giving pleasure with someone else. They then take that heat back to their bedroom. You might learn a few new moves too ;)
Breaking Routine:
Over time, any relationship can fall into routines that may lead to stagnation. When’s the last time you tried something new? Swinging introduces novelty and excitement, infusing a sense of adventure and unpredictability into your shared experiences.
Heightened Trust and Security:
Engaging in swinging requires a high degree of trust and mutual consent. Knowing that you can explore these boundaries together and return to one another with a stronger connection reinforces the foundation of your relationship.
Reduced Jealousy:
Ever heard of exposure therapy? It’s something that I help clients with using Accelerated Resolution Therapy. Surprisingly, many couples find that jealousy diminishes as they embark on this journey when approached with secure intentions. This is often due to the increased communication and mutual understanding that comes with the swinging lifestyle.
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How to Get Started With Swinging
Self-reflection and Open Dialogue:
Before even considering swinging, take the time for introspection. Reflect on your own desires, boundaries, and insecurities. Once you have a clear understanding of your own needs, engage in a candid conversation with your partner. Be open, honest, and non-judgmental.
I tend to notice that people-pleasers struggle with finding out what their needs are. A simplified way of going about that is identifying what might be triggering your insecurity and through that, find what needs to be calmed down.
Establish Clear Boundaries:
Setting boundaries is crucial. Discuss what activities are off-limits, what you're comfortable with, and what situations might require a reevaluation of the arrangement. This step ensures that both partners feel safe and respected.
Need help with boundaries? Check out this blog post about how to create boundaries in polyamory and open relationships.
Research and Choose a Suitable Platform:
If you both decide to move forward, it's essential to find a reputable platform or community where you can meet like-minded individuals or couples. There are various online forums, websites, and social media groups dedicated to connecting swingers.
Some notable sites and apps ethically non-monogamous relationships use are:
Reddit
Meetup.com
3somer
Feeld
#Open
SDC.com
Tinder
Meet and Socialize:
When you've found potential partners, arrange to meet in a neutral, non-threatening environment. Engaging in social activities allows for natural conversation and helps gauge compatibility beyond the physical aspect.
Of course, you may end up meeting people in the wild (the real world) or even at a swingers resort before having a “vetting process,” so make sure to talk about a back up plan on how to approach meeting new people and set boundaries on how far you’d like to take your interactions.
Consent is Key:
Throughout this process, remember that consent is non-negotiable. Every participant should feel comfortable and empowered to voice their preferences or concerns at any point.
Consent is not coerced and has expressed enthusiasm to engage with others.
Debrief and Check-In:
After your first experiences, take the time to debrief with your partner. Discuss what went well, what could be improved, and how you both feel about continuing. Regular check-ins are essential to ensure both partners remain comfortable and satisfied.
Best Places Near Orlando, Florida and Surrounding Areas for Swinging Experiences
The Florida Treehouse
This is a Private House Party located in Lakeland Florida. To attend, you must first sign up by creating a private profile and RSVP by their designated deadline.
WHEN CREATING YOUR PROFILE: They require members to provide their phone number & upload a face picture as your member card photo so we can recognize you. No masks, sunglasses, etc. If you are a couple, the photo show must show both of you.
Secrets Hideaway™ Resort and Spa
Florida’s premiere, on-site, Lifestyle-destination where you can book a room to indulge yourself overnight located in Kissimmee, FL.
This is a clothing optional resort so you can slowly dip your toes in the water of swinging.
They have pool parties and restaurant service available, 4 full-bars, pool-side DJs, and erotically-themed nightly soirees at our club, Secrets’ has extensive amenities that both couples, and singles alike, crave to make their Lifestyle fantasies become a secret reality.
Caliente Club & Resorts
Caliente, Like Secrets listed above, is also a clothing optional luxury resort where you can book a stay and enjoy yourself in the lifestyle. Located in sunny Tampa, Florida, you can hang out and embrace your inner nudist or enjoy cooling off in the pool’s specially crafted waterfall to make you feel like you’re in paradise.
Velvet Ties Non-Monogamous Matchmaking
Want someone to do the legwork for you in finding a perfect match? Check out my friends over at Velvet Ties with the first of its kind of offering with matchmaking catered specifically to you.
How does it work? You sign up on their website and fill our your information they request. You’ll meet with the founder of Velvet Ties and take it from there! They are based in New York and Miami as of the date of this post but hope to expand of course. With Miami being only a few short hours from Central Florida, this would be a great way to maintain privacy of your relationships with the distance.
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Conclusion: Embarking on the swinging journey can be a transformative experience for couples
Things to remember when getting started with swinging:
Approach with sincerity, open communication, and respect for one another.
It's important to remember that swinging is not a one-size-fits-all solution, and it may not be suitable for every relationship.
If both partners are willing, however, it can lead to a deeper level of intimacy, trust, and connection.
As with any aspect of a relationship, ongoing communication and mutual understanding are the cornerstones of success.
Remember, the ultimate goal is to strengthen your bond and create a relationship that fulfills both partners' needs and desires.
